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And he's become really popular just over the last year so much so that we've had a lot of user request for reviews, and we've reviewed a couple of his courses in October this last month and they both got solid ratings straight out. So I'm really happy to have him on the show. I know he's got some great-quality advice specifically on this subject, so looking forward to dig into it and help you guys get over this little barrier here.
Now let's get to this interview with Jason Capital. Hey man, it's good to have you on the show. How are you doing today? I am fantastic, sir. I'm doing great too. We're both in sunny places so, you know, that does it well for us.
I want to get into some background about you so everyone who listens to the show knows exactly who you are and how your life is and everything. So like where are you living these days? Where are you hanging out and what do you spend your time doing? Where do you meet women? I used to live on the West side of LA, which is more near the beach.
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About a month ago I actually moved out more into the Beverly Hills area as I was getting more opportunities with like radio and TV and stuff like that. So this is just a little bit closer to that, so I wanted a location for that.
Dude, my life in the last year or so has purposefully and consciously become way like more focused and I guess you can call it my path or my mission or like the thing that I'm trying to create in life, which some combination of like a great social life and a great business.
Those are like the two things I focus on. Literally I want to wake up, I want to work for a few hours, and then I want to have sex. So it's pretty good. How old are you? I am 25 now. It's the first time I've ever been asked that question.
So I was a virgin until I was Since then I've had three relationships and the longest one lasted about six or seven months, I think. It's funny because the first… I started out as a virgin and did not know what to say to girls. I would get tongue-tied, nervous, boring, afraid of rejection, like all kinds of issues.
I dealt with basically everything. And once I really got things going and I had a lot of momentum with game and picking up chicks and stuff like that, that was all I wanted to do. So up until maybe last year, my sole focus was basically cold approach, pick up girls, go to bars, take them home, sometimes go back to the bar and try and get more girls.
Like that was all I really did. And then about six months ago or so, my mindset actually has kind of shifted from more like what I call a cold approach mindset to just more like a cool guy, social circle mindset. What do you find has changed? Is it where you're putting your time in or, you know, does it make you feel better? I mean, like could you describe that a bit?
That would be interesting. Yeah, I think that especially like if you're a dude who was listening right now and you're in this like cold approach mindset. What I think is really strange about this whole community is that so much time and energy and effort and thought is put into and invested in cold approaching girls, in like this idea of you're walking down the street and you see a cut girl and you have to go approach her and approach anxiety and what do you say and what do you do and what if this happens and what if people… like there's so much focus put on that thing, and when you put so much focus on anything, you make it seem a lot bigger than it actually is.
Like approaching is not a big deal. It never was supposed to be. Like that was nothing. Because what happens is when you start approaching girls you notice that you can open like anything.
You can start a conversation, anything. And after 10 seconds you're already talking about something else. So it was like I never understood why guys put so much time and concern into this approach when it's literally like a microscopic part of the big picture and what matters when it comes to becoming like a badass with women. Does it make sense so far? Yeah, that makes total sense. I think part of the focus on cold approach is good in a way, right?
Because it's just something new that they haven't done and it's good to get that experience and kind of, as you say, it becomes a non-issue, right?
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But if you build social connections and a social life, then it's there the next day. So there's a big difference in that. Like that was all I did, was the cold approach, and it was like there was no idea of patience or long game or building it up over time. It was like I'm going to either burn this candle now and fuck it or I'm just going to burn the candle and not be able to fuck it.
Like that was the mindset. And what always struck me as ignorant or just stupid about this whole approach was that there was no ROI in doing it. Like the only return investment you could ever get was that if it worked a small percent of the time, then you would have sex with a girl and that would be it. His name is Greg Greenway and he was in social circle training at that time.
If you just took those skills and you applied them to more of like a social circle paradigm, your life would change. So now it's like if I go out with friends, I'm not going out with a mindset of like I need to pull girls home tonight, I need to have one-night stands, I need to cold approach all these girls. I really barely even have to cold approach girls anymore.
Because what happened was first that I got with him—you know, I have these skills, I have the ability to like open a girl, banter, turn her, flirt or make her chase me, all that shit—we would go out, and instead of me going to approach some hot girl to try and, like I said, burn the candle, instead I would go up there and just be friends with her… [Angel Donovan]: We're just like we're cool fucking guys hanging out, we're going to bring her into our world, and when we do that, and then it's hang out, now you have a good time.
She introduces some of her friends. Just be cool and have fun. Because girls are very aware of like when a guy is like trying to push some agenda or when he just is cool and laid back and wants nothing, and they want to be with the second guy. They want to be friends with that guy. So they come and hang out with us. We all exchange phone numbers. And now it's me and Greg and we have four girls rolling with us. We're not trying to fuck them.
Again, not trying to fuck them but just being friends with them. They're in our friend zone. Like it was that simple? And there is a certain subconscious like level of trust that happens when we meet people through a friend as opposed to like a random cold approach. So all of a sudden all these four years I spent in the fucking trenches like getting this cold approach thing and like getting the first five minutes fantastic and the seduction and all that shit — when these girls would introduce me to random girls in the bar or at the pool party or wherever we were, like it was so easy.
It was just like I just get introduced, flirt with them a little bit, and then at the end of the night pick the girl I want. So that has been like the biggest evolution in my end, dude. Is that all clear?
Yeah, yeah, that's great. And one of the words you brought up a few times was fun, and like I think some guys are doing this like it's got to the point where they're not really having fun anymore or they're not having fun because it's just competition against themselves, against their ego and stuff, and they kind of forget what they got into this for, which is to have fun in the first place, right?
And if you're not having fun, then what are you doing it for? Then again it becomes like a competition with yourself, like you have to get into state, like they're not okay right now.
But like an invalidated state, in a state where you're trying to prove something, you're putting yourself in like a low-status state all the time. That's not going to attract anybody. Fun isn't something you have to try for anymore. It's just something that you are. Right, and I'm sure you're having, like you said, you're having a much better quality of life and you're having a lot more fun with it. How many women have you slept with in your lifetime so far? But yeah, you know, I stopped counting at over and it was more like I just…the validation of like numbers and then stuff like that, it kind of becomes… it's meaningless after a while.
Like truthfully, at this point, I would probably take away a lot of those girls if I can just pick out the ones where I had the best interaction with or the sex was the best. Instead of having sex with girls or some shit like that, like have sex with 30 girls but make those 30 girls like way more intense and the sex way better and everything like that.
You focus on the experience rather than the number or anything. But you know, if you want to talk numbers, the one thing that I can tell you is when I first started like 20, 21, 22, basically I would go out every night and I was like the make-out king.
Like that was like my thing for a while, getting make-outs. And that was the barrier actually and it kind of became a barrier for myself where I was like I would rather make out with eight girls in a night than take any home. Like that was something I had to kind of fix on myself. My friends actually created something called the minute rule for me back in college, and it was based on I was going out and they would just watch me with every single girl, but it was basically I didn't talk to a girl for more than 15 minutes without at least making out with her once.
Well, it's great that you bring that up because what we're going to talk about today is basically taking it to a sexual level and making out with girls or taking further. We were reading some of your stuff, we just reviewed some of your stuff that focused on that, so I thought it was a great topic to focus the interview today on.
Basically it seems like pretty much since you started you're being pretty sexual yourself because you've been making out a lot and you've… Did you have the barrier kind of yourself where you weren't able to do that or when you first got into this were you kind of able to deal with that?
They want to pull the trigger whatever you want to say, but they just won't move it on from there. Where did you kind of come from? I think that that barrier, that exists in a lot of guys, and it has to do with them not being fully comfortable with themselves.
Because once you're comfortable with yourself, touch is natural. Like people who are just very comfortable with each other and very comfortable with themselves and they have a vibe between them, they're just going to be touching naturally. Touch is something that we naturally do, that we're supposed to naturally do all the time.
A human being just likes touching and we like being touched. Like why are you still not at the point where you're comfortable enough with yourself to touch someone?
Does that make sense? Yeah, it does, and like another question you could ask them is—well, like I've lived a bit in Latin America, Spain, and places where people are a lot warmer, right?
Just guys and girls will touch you a lot more than, say, in the States or definitely in Asia, for example, where they touch you a lot less and they're kind of averse to that kind of thing. So I think different guys have different environments where they grow up, but mostly in the US they're not as used to being like really warm like a Latino may be. But just with your guy friends, there are different levels I think that guys have grown up with, right?
Some guys, they're a bit more touchy with their friends, like pushing them around and stuff like that. What kind of first steps would you suggest guys start thinking about like just to become more, as you say, comfortable with this?
Like thinking of their relationships they have with whoever it is today, what kind of things should they think about being comfortable with? Okay, so two things come to mind. But they posted an article a couple of months ago where it was basically about how guys and like guy friends used to touch each other a lot more about a hundred years ago.
And there were like 60 pictures of like guys in the Army and guys, friends at work, at the bar in like the early s. It was just normal. Like girls, they like to hug each other and hold hands and random stuff like that when they're hanging out, and guys back then, they did that. Like I, to this day for whatever reason, whether it's me internally, whether it's social programming, like I'm not comfortable holding hands with a guy… [Angel Donovan]: So one, I think just kind of getting in your head that like guys not touching each other or touch being a weird thing or whatever it is is not like a normal thing.
That's something that culture has kind of like brought up in the last couple of decades, but like for hundreds of thousands of years touch was a very natural normal response. So that would be number one.
Number two, generally speaking, like you have to get in your head that you're now like the touchy guy. And not like in a bad way, not in a creepy way, but you're just the guy who has no problem just like touching people. So literally I would just say just start practicing touching everyone you know.Trust Yourself and Keep Going 2015
Like everyone you talk to, touch them. Like hit them on the shoulder, give them a high five, shake their hand, push them away, like just get used to playfully touching people.
And that's the biggest key. Like touch becomes creepy when you leave it there. So if you're talking to a girl and you guys are actually vibing and connecting—you're alone—and you like put your hand on her knee, it can be good and it can turn her on if you hold it there for maybe one, two, three seconds and then you take it off.
If you leave it there for 10 seconds, that touch just went from a turn-on to creepy. Have you had that? Yeah, well, actually, you know, I've lived in a variety of countries where basically it's really normal. So I grew up in France and Spain and places like that, so if you're not kissing and hugging people you're weird. So like in Los Angeles for the most part that's not like a normal thing, but there is like a subculture of… like a spiritual culture of hippies and yoga, stuff like that here.
That's just what they do. I like to hug people. So it's like you touch them but you're always taking it away first. Always be the one to take the touch away first. So something like that is a great way when you first meet a girl. You have a sexual communication vibe going instead there. Right, right, it opens up all that communication. A few things you said there, the Art of Manliness article, yeah, anything we talk about on the show, it'll be in the show notes, guys, afterwards.
And like you were talking about guys holding hands. So like to your point, you know, I think things have changed over time. A point you didn't bring up which I think is interesting is like you were talking about the creepy vibe… [Jason Capital]: Have you noticed that? Can you say that one more time? What do you mean exactly? And then it gives off that creepy vibe straight away because it looks more like some kind of conscious action.
Yeah, I mean, if any guy here is actually looking at the touch that they are providing, then you need to stop that immediately.
You know, like cut that off immediately. Be looking at her in the eyes when you are touching her and nowhere else in that situation. Because if you were looking at where you're touching with your hands, yeah, that's just like, I'm imagining like a serial killer… [Angel Donovan]: Or he like always strokes her hair and he's looking at it, like keep the eye contact going — touch for a second, take it away. Yeah, if you think about it, you know, people never look at what they're…when they're touching each other they're not looking at that.
Part of what makes it weird is, and I mentioned this in the beginning, is when she feels that you want something from her or that you're doing something because you want, you're coming from a place of want.
That makes it creepy. Okay, you need to come from a place of have or a place of fullness or abundance, whatever you want to call it. So if you're looking at where you're touching, it communicates to her on some conscious level that you're doing it because you want something.
Well, because the whole thing of touching is that you're not thinking about it when you're doing it. People just do it naturally, right? We touch… like if you're in a conversation with someone and you guys are like laughing about something, like you might slap each other on the back when you're laughing and we don't think about why we're doing it, we do it because we're feeling great and we almost have this overwhelm of positivity and happiness coming through us and we want to share it with the person.
Like we want to touch them to share it, and then we take it away. There was no intent to get something back from it. It's purely from a place of giving and wanting nothing in return, which is incredibly attractive. Well, so we're talking a lot about physical touch here. Is this the main thing that makes things sexual or is this the main barrier? Is that the big thing? Yeah, you know, it varies from guy to guy. I will say that if you talk to a girl for more than like 10, 15, 20 minutes and you guys haven't touched yet… [Angel Donovan]: And if there's no touch between you guys, then it's not sexual, it's just verbal.
Basically, if you're spinning great game but you're not touching her, it literally looks like to her you're just saying words to impress yourself. Like you're impressing yourself with how good you are with your handle of the English language but you're not actually interested in her.
You're just kind of like running a monologue on yourself to make yourself happy but you're not actually interested in her. Yeah, yeah, yeah, totally. So have you got any like tips on things, like easy things for guys to kind of introduce this physical touch, easier ways to do it? Yeah, well, number one, touch right away. Like set tone immediately that you guys are just going to be touching each other.
That's just how the relation is going to be. So when you first meet her, hug her, right?
And then throw it away. Give her a fist bump. And then, you know, you give a fist bump, and now all of a sudden you guys, like this has been set that you guys are going to touch each other. So maybe she might touch you later like because you've already initiated touch a couple of times. So that's number one, is like set the tone early that you guys are just going to be touching each other. Just one thing that you said, like immediately hug her.
But if you don't know her, is that something that you can do? I'm speaking more of like socially you get introduced to someone. Like I said, like what I gained and what I'm teaching now is it's kind of moved away from cold approach simply because it's getting everybody better results. But you meet someone through a friend, you get an introduction, like hug them for a second. Like this is what I do. But even if you're not comfortable hugging, like when you give her a handshake, like one of the things I used to do was just I always say never give a girl a normal handshake.
So a typical like business handshake is you have to shake hands, you look each other in the eye up, and down for a few seconds, and then you let go. It was like the second or third day of summer and I was home alone that night for some reason I can't remember, in suburban Pennsylvania and it was like 85 degrees and beautiful out. I had been watching Jason Capital on YouTube for a few months now and so I already knew he was legit.
I somehow went down one of the sales funnels he's very good at marketing and it's another thing he teaches and landed on the sales page for this book. I had recently gotten my first debit card, but had never made a purchase on it before. I remember sitting there, entranced by his offer, sweating on the edge of my couch with all the windows open because my parents didn't want to turn the air on for just me, and feeling as if I was at a major crossroads.
I remember buying it with my heart pounding with nervousness and excitement, because this book's reputation was insane and I had no idea what kind of magic I'd find inside. So I purchased it, and then realized that I still hadn't gone out and bought dinner lol.
So I called up a Mexican place down the street, ordered two burritos, then ran outside, hopped on my bike, and biked into town with a big grin on my face, picked them up, put them in my shirt, then biked back to my house and ran back to my computer. Then, as excited as a little kid on Christmas morning, I sat down, took one bite of a burrito, and then let that thing go cold for the next 3 or 4 hours.
Because in that time, while reading the beginnings of this book for the first time I've read it many times sincemy brain was far too busy being warped and altered by the awesomeness that is this book. The book's beginning has a way of making you feel as if your entering into something forbidden, secret, and powerful. I reached the second page, and ran upstairs to my school backpack which I had put away for the summer, and took out a pencil and a clean notebook, entitled it "Greatness," and ran back downstairs.